[2025] EWHC 1713 (Fam)
Family Division of the High Court

[2025] EWHC 1713 (Fam)

Fecha: 04-Jul-2025

I also conclude from M’s WhatsApp messages and her emails to F that she herself had not considered remaining in this jurisdiction to be a long-term stable arrangement until relatively recently. I ackn

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I also conclude from M’s WhatsApp messages and her emails to F that she herself had not considered remaining in this jurisdiction to be a long-term stable arrangement until relatively recently. I acknowledge in reaching this conclusion it is possible that M said this to F in order not to ‘rock the boat’, to play for time and/or to put off a final difficult conversation with F for as long as possible whilst in her own mind she had reached a clear decision. I note that in paragraph 33 of her Statement M refers to reaching out to Women’s Aid X on 15th March 2024 as she felt “exhausted and under constant pressure from [F]”, that a feature of this pressure was (she said) the flipping by F between apparent contentedness with B remaining in this country and his demands she return to Portugal, pressure that (as M states at paragraph 36) was “overwhelming” at a time she was the primary carer of a toddler. It is therefore said that at times she told F that she would return as a means of coping with that pressure. However, on balance I am satisfied that given the length of time over which these messages were sent they were genuine. I accept it is likely that B will have picked up on M’s lack of settlement. In any event it cannot be that B has become settled when M is not.